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Thursday, March 22, 2012

Nail Shape

This is a post that I have been writing in my mind for awhile, but I have been avoiding it because, in all honestly, I really hate dealing with negative comments.  My skin is not thick and they make me super sad and I want to close up my blog.  But I also feel this has to be said.

My nails flare out.  I try as much I can to keep the shape of them in check, but there is only so much I can do.  I had a recent comment, that honestly hurt my feelings, that my nails were ugly and I needed to shape them better to be taken as a serious blogger.

I'm sure this commenter, and anyone that feels the same, doesn't realize just how much I agonize over my nail shape.  I file them inward as much as possible.  The issue isn't with my nails, as much as it's with my cuticles and the skin surrounding my nails.  They grow over a good amount of my nail bed.  In the past, I have pushed back my cuticles until it hurt.  I have even cut my cuticle and skin to try and make it look like everyone else's nails.  At some point, I realized that I was hurting myself and I can't change it.  It's just the way I'm made.

If you don't like my nail shape, and you think they are ugly and look like duck nails, clamshells, etc... please don't read my blog.  I'm not saying that in a "if you don't like me then get the hell out" kind of way.  I'm being 100% serious.  There are hundreds of nail blogs out there, so I am sure you can find something that suits your fancy.  Believe me, I do understand where you are coming from.  Years ago, when I was active on MUA, there was a poster whose nail shape I didn't like, and I did have a negative reaction to her pictures.  To solve the problem, I avoided her posts.

That said, with my latest post, I started to swatch on my nails a bit differently (with Zoya Carly and Zoya Myrta specifically), so they don't appear to flare as much, but I'm sure someone will not like that part of my natural nail is showing.  LOL.  Can't win for losing.  :)


35 comments:

déjà vu said...

Honestly, there is no purpose to comments like that. It really reflects the character and maturity (or lack thereof) of the individual making the comment. I mean I completely agree with you; if you don't like my nails or my swatching, find another blog. Like you said, it's that simple. :) Anyway, I enjoy reading your blog so swatch away!

Lynn said...

Everyone is different, and your nail shape makes you who you are. If you can't change it (not saying you should!) then embrace it :)

Alexa said...

Oh my gosh! What a silly and rude thing to say! I've read your blog for quite some time and never took a second of thought on your nail shape!

aimeeus said...

Wow. See, I think constructive criticism is a good thing, but what was said to you was not constructive in any way. It was just mean! I think it's a GOOD thing that your nails are shaped differently to most nail bloggers. A lot of women are gonna have the same shape as you and surely they want to see what the polish is going to look like on nails like theirs? Plus I like your nail shape. Please don't let nasty comments hurt you or make you want to stop blogging. xxx

bruval64 (RoseAnn) said...

Keep on swatching!!!! I love your blog.

RoseAnn

lunaticraft said...

One of the reasons I started following your blog was your unique nail shape. That and the fact that you keep your nails short. I'm a cello player, so I have to keep my nails stubby, and will never ever be able to have nails that look like what I see on other nail blogs. Ever. So finding your blog was so refreshing. Your blog helped me come to terms with my stubs, and realize that just because I can't have long nails doesn't mean that they can't be beautiful!

A Polish Problem said...

Thank you girls, I truly appreciate it. Once I realized that my nails were not the norm in nail polish blogger-land, I kind of embraced it. My thought process has been that "if I have weird shaped nails that grow wonky and never get beyond my fingertip then I'm sure there are many other people with the same problem, and I want those people to see that they can be nail polish obsessed too". :P

I didn't even realize that my nail shape (in general, the tapering shape, not exactly mine specifically) bothered some people. Then, awhile back, there was an "I hate" post on another blog and people mentioned that they hated nails that flared out. It was a complete lightbulb moment (and not a good one). :(

Every time I read a comment like that, I would get a little sad. I had a feeling a comment like Jess' was coming because yesterday, while I was on MUA, someone called my nails duck nails, and well... I just had a gut feeling. I understand that people have personal preferences and, while I hate them and I'm too thin-skinned to deal with them at first, you can freely post comments on my blog. Though, please know, there is only so much I can do with my NATURAL nail shape, and believe me, I have tried it all.

I guess my biggest concern is that I don't want my readers, and polish companies, to think that I'm half-assing my swatches and reviews, by hastily slapping polish on my unkempt nails and being done with it. The 2 Zoya posts probably took me 5+ hours to complete, with swatching, editing, and reviewing. Ever since I came back, I have been trying hard to make this blog the best I can. I do consider myself "a serious blogger". No, I don't have 2000, 3000, 6000 followers, but for the 1300+ that follow me, I am giving it 100%.

I appreciate every single one of you that reads my little corner of the internet. If you just can't handle my nails, there are literally hundreds more blogs to check out, some of which are my very favorites, and I would be happy to recommend them to you.

nail crazy said...

your nails look the way that they look, so what??? are we all supposed to be perfect? really?
do we all need to have exactly the same shape of nails? or same hear color, our teeth should be pearly white or else... we're not good enough? to hell with people who thinks like that :-p
you're gorgeous just the way you are :-D
keep on posting, i do read... but lazy to comment ;-)

Kate said...

Please, please, please don't let them get you down! Everyone above has said it so well, so I won't repeat it, but you are great just the way you are, and those who don't like it can go elsewhere. But I'm staying here! And it sounds like I won't be alone ;)

Emma said...

Who needs people like that anyway! I love reading your blog and checking out your swatches and nail shape should have nothing to do with that!
Obviously the person who wrote that post thinks they are perfect or they wouldn't have been so negative about it.
My nails aren't perfect, and my fingers are crooked on my swatching hand from being broken, but if people don't want to enjoy my blog because of that then tough, I don't need them.

Keep up the amazing work, we love you! Don't let it get you down :)

Gwenn V. said...

Wow, seriously, people can be SO silly! It's not like if you could change a nail shape...
I've been following you for a long time now (back to when you had damages with acrylics), I don't comment a lot but I always enjoy your pics. Your manicures are clean and your pics are pretty, that's the most important for me :)
I can't understand people who don't like something or someone and continue to visit their pages only to criticize and hurt them!

Jacky said...

You know what? Screw 'em. Everyone's nails are different. There are no "right" or "wrong" shapes. I agree with you; if someone doesn't like it, there are plenty of other blogs out there. I think you do a wonderful job with your swatches, and your nails are neat and well-manicured. In fact, you have cost me money more than once after reading one of your posts. lol

Keep doing your wonderful blog and don't worry what a few crabs think. :)

Kittyluvscolor said...

Your nails look Great, Reconsider your plan to change how you swatch polish that's ridiculous! Changing anything about who you are or what you do means those mean people win, Don't let'em!! I read all your post and look at all your pics and they are all fantastic!!

Rockfly said...

I rarely comment but I felt compelled to. You have had such a rough history with your nails and I feel that you rose above that. Look at your blog, your followers! Do you know how I found your blog? It was listed as the #1 nail polish blog on some website and I wish I could tell you what that was but it's been so long. They were right because I'm a fan! Everyone can tell you that you shouldn't listen to the negativity but in truth it does sting and is hard to ignore. I honestly feel sorry for those who believe there is a standard for beauty because they don't see it in everything around them. Only in what they were told to see, so to appreciate and respect others is their downfall. The way you addressed this issue was very classy and I wish you the very best.

Rockfly said...

http://lacquerenhanced.blogspot.com/

Susy said...

Im sorry you get those comments, I agree that if you don't like someone's nails you shouldn't read, there's no reason to leave negative and hurtful things like that! I don't comment often (because I'm always so behind with new blog posts on my reader!) but I always read and like your blog! :)

Fingers said...

Was it an anonymous comment? It seems like people hide behind that when they say really mean things. I hope that you don't let this get you down too much. That person obviously has issues within themselves and pick on others to make themselves feel better. We all have different nail shapes just like we are all different. I wonder if you can bock her from commenting again?

Gosia said...

I just found your blog and in all honesty, when I looked at your pictures, I thought "wow, that's different"! Not in a bad sense! I'm a lacquer hoarder and I love to compare shades on all kinds of nails. If everyone had the same shape and the same cuticles and skin tone, we would all look the same!! I have little short sausage-like fingers and I have a blog. I try to take care of my cuticles as much as I can, but my job dries them out so much that no matter what I do they will never be perfect. And I still have followers on my blog! I don't think it's only the pictures that attract people, but also your personality and how you present yourself in your blog.
Being different is good!!! That's what makes you unique!!! I have an accent (I'm from Poland originally) and I work with Americans and I used to be soo self-conscious... but screw anyone who doesn't like it!! if they don't like my accent, or your nails, or anything, then they can go away... it's not your nails who make you who you are! And I think that they're healthy and beautiful. Please don't let stupid people bring you down... I think the number of your followers can attest to how great your blog is!!!

Ashley said...

People are jerks, don't let them get you down. My nails aren't a "normal" shape either. My cuticles are uneven, and my pointer fingers have the same sort shape your nails do when they grow past the tip of my finger, they curve and point down. People can either deal with it when they're looking at my blog or they can just not look.

I've been following you for a long time, and I love your blog so keep your chin and your posts up. :)

paintallthenails.blogspot.com

Megan (A Polish Problem) said...

Thank you so much everyone. I really appreciate it. <3

Katelynn said...

I just find it refreshing that you don't use acrylic, or press on nails. I've found that a lot of bloggers paint the nails first and then apply them. Which, is alright I guess - but I never noticed anything not-normal about your nails. I mean.. they're nails for crying out loud. People just don't have enough self confidence in themselves so they have to tear others down to make them feel better, and over the internet.. come on people. Honestly, don't let it get to you :)

♥beauxs mom said...

i find your nail shape unique and beautiful, dont let the haters get you down.

Ace said...

I wrote on that post yesterday but it's deleted. I think it's noone's business what shape your nails are and people with any nail shape can blog. This is just a fun hobby and I don't see why people need to comment on things they don't like. It's easily solved by not looking at a particular blog!

Hannah said...

Your nail shape is different, but not bad! It's unique! I know as a viewer and a blogger I prefer good application and overall appearance versus "perfect" nail shape. Your application is great (no pooling!) and your cuticles are well maintained. I don't think there's anything wrong with your nail shape and you certainly shouldn't close your blog :)

Kimber said...

Wow. I don't know who would say something like that, but it was totally unnecessary. I don't see anything wrong with your nail shape, and look at what you went through to get your nails back to healthy, happy nails! I love your nails, your swatches, your blog. It kills me that blogging has become such "srs bznss" that people feel the need to attack others. 20 bucks says it's a jealous person that doesn't have the same kind of popularity you do (how shallow, right?), and let their jealousy get to them. Obviously you're doing just fine without trying to change the way your nails are.

I know what you mean about not having thick skin though. I've only received one negative comment (but my blog isnt even half as well known as yours), but I stewed over it and felt inferior and horrible for a few days. It's hard not to take things personally when people are so relaxed about saying mean things. I did resist the urge to post a pic of my middle finger in response, but I thought about it!! ;)

Pam McBride said...

People can be such jerks when they're hiding behind a computer! Just ignore that witch Jess. There's nothing wrong with you or your nails, it's nasty people like her who have the problem. You continue to enjoy swatching and blogging, and we will continue to enjoy your posts! :)

Pam McBride said...

And by the way, why would that makeup.com article feature YOUR nails at the TOP of their article if they were weird, ugly, unkept, or anything else! Helloooo haters! Lol. Xoxo.

A Polish Problem said...

Hi girls, thank you so much for your comments. I really appreciate each and every one of them. Unfortunately, in addition to the previous comment, I have recently discovered that my pictures have been stolen and my nails are being trashed on another blog. Here's a word to the wise, if you are going to lambaste someone, be sure that you don't link back to their blog. Duh. :P I also found out that my URL has been mentioned in several forums with the comments "nasty shape, horrible nails, and ugly nails" always accompanying it. When I started this blog, I never thought that someone would be taking my nail shape and trashing it all over the internet. I'm trying my hardest to not have this bother me, but sadly, it's not working.

Quite frankly, this sucks. After I found out about this last night, I, again, wanted to just shut it all down. However, in the light of day, with a clear head, I am taking this as a learning experience and as a chance to grow as a blogger. I did look at the sides of my nails and I realized I can file them in a bit more. Also, wearing them shorter does make them look less like a trapezoid (another comment LOL). However, while I am willing to take this as constructive criticism and grow from it, there is only so much I can do.

A Polish Problem said...

Thanks, Pam. I kind of thought the same thing. I was a little surprised that Makeup.com used my nails in their article, but I was also flattered. I guess if they sucked that bad, they wouldn't have. LOL.

A Polish Problem said...

Thanks, Kimber. I completely agree with you. Back when I started this, blogging was fun. I've had this blog for 3 years, so in the beginning, it was a learning process of all of us, I think. However, over the years, while my skill has grown by leaps and bounds (I mean just look at my old pics... ugh), so has the expectations of blog readers. It's no longer fun in a lot of ways. I don't plan on stopping any time soon, but negative comments and blatant trashing make it awfully tempting.

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P said...

My nails look JUST like yours and I have been so disheartened by all the perfectly shaped nails, thinking I'd just never be able to wear polish. Your blog helps me have confidence in my own nails that I can actually wear polish and fun trends! Thank you!

mango poppy said...

My nails flare out too, as did my Grandmother's. I love her very much and look at it as a piece of her still with me :')

mango poppy said...

My nails flare out too, as did my Grandmother's. I love her very much and look at it as a piece of her still with me :')

mango poppy said...

My nails flare out too, as did my Grandmother's. I love her very much and look at it as a piece of her still with me :')

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